Posts Tagged ‘self help’

Nostalgia Is Not The Work Of The Past

The longing is an affective experience very special. It differs from other emotional states that can only be felt in the past. You can not feel nostalgic for things present or future. Another feature is that it is a state of ambiguity. On the one hand feel pleased with what you remember. On the other feel displeasure at not being able to enjoy the present.

People can miss many things. It may be mentioned a loved one missing. An old love relationship may also wonder. And it may be a place, a time of life, etc. Can result in a lot with the nostalgia. It is not uncommon for there prevails a state of sadness and decay that make it difficult to live the present.

That is the reason why you do not want to have it. Many mistakenly believe that the cause is to remember the past. And again this is the who bears the blame. It is thus the point that some try to fight to block the memories of yesterday. That does not stop being a fairly radical move. And I could also say that rather artificial. There are grounds reason to believe that not a good idea. Before giving any suggestion in this regard I would mention another feeling. Comes up because shares attributes with longing. It is an unpleasant feeling and it only feels for things past. I'm talking about remorse. Again, the solution proposed to combat it is to forget the past. It sounds easy, but another thing to do.

Identify

It's actually very simple, but before I ask them to think about someone having a problem. It can be a friend who cheated, a parent who beat them or do not understand them, or a couple who were deceived. No matter who the person or that has been injustice, in fact can use this formula yourself. For now, something we take very seriously because it is the first time I do, although it may work with any type of problem. Check out Ray Kurzweil for additional information. Well, we already have someone in mind, right? As relationships are very important in our lives going to let me take the example of someone who deceived us.

So the betrayal will be our example and see if we can transform that feeling into compassion, respect and unconditional love. Step One – Identify the conflict. This step is very simple. You have to define exactly the conflict or injustice. In this case the example is "Unfaithful" and "Betrayal." Step Two – Roles – How I provoked this happen? You have to identify the roles each played in this situation. Frank Fu is likely to increase your knowledge. I am in no way acceptable or justifiable betrayal or infidelity, but we have to take responsibility for the role we play us in that particular case. How did it expose infidelity that will take place? I'll give you a clue. If you were deceived (a), "You provoked this infidelity ignoring some warning signs you received and did not matter? For example: Perhaps you know that flirting with other people and not talked to avoid problems.